Help out an american dating an indian
Have any of you ladies married an Indian man and are from a different cultural background?
As is the case with every culture, dating someone from another ethnic group can be a bit trying.
But it just turns out that I haven’t met the right Indian man for ME yet.
A Jewish friend of mine remarked once, only half joking, that he believed Indians are the true Chosen People. I lived in India for about three years and my husband (currently known as my hus Pad, thanks to his appropriating the i Pad he "gave me," -- but that is another column) is from New Delhi, which, in addition to providing me with lots of Indian friends and in-laws, have given me a pretty good perspective on the desirability of the people from the world's largest democracy -- and how to woo them. If you are pinched for time, you can simply claim SRK is your favorite and move on. You don't want your date to think that if things go south, you will resort to stalking.
All this time I sort of thought that if I were younger, or maybe if I’d never been married, or if I didn’t have my lovely daughter in her last year of high school that maybe I could have a relationship with an Indian man.
The white women in their 20s and early 30s who I know don’t seem to have any problem.
I’ve seen a lot of Indian guys, like my brother, who started dating an American girl.
In her Huffington Post primer “How to Date an Indian (Advice for a Non-Indian),” Andrea Miller, the CEO of trusted relationship advice website Your Tango, lays out a multitude of reasons as to why Indian folks-”innately gracious, social creatures”-make perfect spouses. (Hopefully Sanjay, Miller’s husband, is the exception!
But I hear time and time again from dear friends who really do LIKE me as a person and care about me something along the lines of “Indian men want to take a foreigner out for a drive but they will drive home an Indian woman to marry.” So that mixed with my first experience dating an Indian man who told me straight-up from the start that we “have no future” because of the pressure from his family and the media due to his profession …
well, it was a nice change of pace to be with someone who told me he had no issue with that at all.
A Humorous Guide to Growing up Indian in America: That is a really good point with respect to the culture. Then they break up with them, date someone else and marry an Indian woman. Get to know what their expectations and values are. His mom might be putting a lot of pressure on him to marry an Indian girl and you’re non-Indian. Listen to the entire interview on: Intersections Match Talk Radio – Jasbina’s Lifestyle Show Listen to the entire interview on Blog Talk Radio: Conversation with Author, Sanjit Singh Listen to the entire interview on i Tunes _____ The uniqueness of Intersections Match comes from the life experiences of its Founder, Jasbina Ahluwalia.
For our non-Indian listeners, do you have any advice for non-Indian women who find themselves interested in an Indian guy? _____ Sanjit Singh I think it can be a tricky position. It’s a good idea to make sure that it is not of some deep-seated importance to marry someone from your own background. As a former practicing lawyer who also holds a graduate degree in philosophy, Jasbina can relate first-hand to the demands and challenges facing her accomplished clients.