Dating a divorced man red flags
These can be great perks," says licensed psychotherapist Tina B. They're also more "willing to share their feelings and tackle the tough topics," says relationship expert Lori Bizzoco, founder of Cupids "Men who are divorced enjoy companionship that they were familiar with having been married before," says La Pronda, 43, who's dated both never-married and divorced men.
"They don't shy away from a conversation about relationships, marriage, love and intimacy." Adds Bizzoco, "Even though his previous marriage didn't work out, dating shows he's willing to open himself up to love and that he's interested in something serious again."4. Men naturally want to "fix" things and problem solve, life coach and dating expert Brooke Lewis points out, which can translate into a post-divorce desire for a successful new relationship.
But how do you differentiate between someone carrying an industrial-sized container of emotional baggage and a second-time-round singleton ready to be your Mr Right?
Ready for round two Everyone deserves a fresh start; at the end of the day, who hasn’t been in a failed relationship?
True love does not fade the longer you date, it grows stronger.
“Dating after marriage is certainly not the experience that it was before marriage,” said Moskovitch, author of The Smart Divorce.
“The older you get, holding out for someone who has never been married is increasingly unrealistic.” She’s not wrong.
Divorce figures are rising year on year, and official statistics published at the end of 2012 revealed that 42 per cent of marriages in England and Wales end in divorce.*However, while there’s no reason to think you can’t be his ‘second-time-lucky’, getting involved with a man who’s had a previous trip up the aisle comes with certain complications, which is why it’s important to proceed with caution, says Dr Hartman.
Many daters associate divorced people with excess baggage.
While there can be some red flags (like if his relationship ended because he was unfaithful), people who've been through a divorce tend to have a deeper, more realistic perspective on marriage than those haven't.
“And I found myself dating again,” said Fisher, author of the new book, Dating for Dads: The Single Father’s Guide to Dating Well Without Parenting Poorly. “But this time I was a widowed and divorced woman,” Fisher said.